Inspiration to young moms in campus.

To the young mothers in campus. I want to talk to you as a woman. I have learnt some important life lessons especially from the university. The fact that you got a kid should make you smarter in how you see the world. You might be a mommy by choice or not, that is: you were not psychologically prepared. Some people mock ... how can you not be prepared and yet you are engaging in adult stuff…? Well, when you fresh from high school as a young intellect who is so much focused and you just got to campus, met some TDH (Tall, Dark Handsome) guy from wherever. You love his vibe. You want to make friends and you innocently fall in love; before you know it… you making out with this guy… you are making love… You know! Shit happens. Whichever the reason… you should be prepared to face the world in a different and a new perspective. You have to know that you are different from your classmates or your age mates who are still single. You are a mother and there is a kid somewhere who is looking up to you. How you look at the world, how you face your challenges, how you resolve your issues, you should be focused towards making you a better person. Why I’m talking about this…?? I realize that most women go through a lot of psychological torture trying to figure out their next move, especially when you get a kid in School, out of wedlock, when you were not prepared, like it just happened within a blink of an eye…. So your world completely changes, you feel like you the worst, most stupid thing in the world. Nastiest especially if your so called baby daddy turns to be an irresponsible idiot who ran away from his responsibility. You know what I mean. You not his type maybe. A lot of stuff that you didn’t know when you liked him. It just kills your spirit. But all is not lost. You look at yourself in the mirror and hate life. The pain that paralyses your own existence, kills your ego, diminishes the confidence you once had. You are torn in that very purview with your baby, when the whole world does not understand. You don’t know where to run to. Every moment of your own existence is cursing the day you were born. Yet you have to smile to that baby when it innocently looks into your eyes. That is the worst feeling in the world. Your family can not really understand what you going through, they don’t just get it? How silly could you be? You such a disgrace and a disappointment, How could you?” They ask. You are ashamed, embarrassed, low self-esteem, name it. This is the point as a young mother an intellect who just slid, you get a life changing moment. You have to be positive. Put it in mind no condition is permanent. You get to know that these things happen. Work towards developing you for the sake of the cute little baby you brought into this world. We all deal with stress differently, but certain stretches will just kill your psyche completely. However positive you want to be, it will be a melee. That is what I am talking about. You recollecting yourself, choosing not to die but live and survive the moment. When you are depressed, the baby has nothing to feed on because mommy has no milk, the teats are red and dry because your brain is frazzled, with the many fears and worries of you and your little one. When you have lost so much weight within months such that everyone is giving you that stare, like what just happened to you female …? are you dying or something? When your haters get the prospect to shine from your misery by defaming, being callous and blathering about you. When you get back to a society that will harshly judge you and step on you… to dim the remaining glimpse of liveliness and hope in you. That moment when you are literally a zombie, the walking dead. Constantly confused and just buried in your own thoughts. Lost in your own world. It is a moment that needs positivity, love and psychotherapy… apparently no one gives a damn. Woman get prepared to fight your own battle. You have to do what it takes to be better than self-pity, better than just self-blame, anger, depression the list is long. Develop some shock absorbers and build a sturdy attitude for survival mode. At the end of the day if you locked and glued in your wretchedness no one cares. You will sink and drown your baby. For the sake of the little angel…who put a smile on your face, you gar to be a fighter a real warrior.